...it's cingular? one of my friends told me about a website she know's about. i forgot the name of it though. she said you can get free ringtones and it just costs a text message for every song you want!

I would recommend you check out the following review site:

Ringtone Download Services Review 2008

It will tell you how much each ring tone costs. The only sites that will usually offer completely free (on the supplier-side end) are the ones that will use your cell phone # and e-mail address for Spam (i.e. sell your information). You can usually tell by the quality of the site and the presence of various advertisements.

Cell Phone Accessories, Mobile Phone Accessories, Wireless Accessories at ANYTHINGFORMYCELL.COM - Cellular Accessories Superstore!

(I already posted this answer in a different forum, but I thought it might help you too...)